By now you likely know that Chelsea Clinton and Marc Mezvinsky are expecting their first child in the fall. The fact that Hillary Clinton's daughter will give birth to one of this year’s four million American babies is exhilerating for their family. But it doesn't deserve the media bashing--that the new role of grandmother-to-be will hold her back if she runs in the 2016 presidential race.
There's no denying that family has an impact on all aspects of our lives. And let me tell you from experience, grandparenting is a highly underrated gift. If, like Hillary, you're about to begin this great adventure, here are some practical tips that can help you prepare:
Enjoy the process. You're not defined by what others see as the grandma stereotype. Incorporate the richness of life experiences and acquired wisdom into your sense of yourself. And rely on what you've learned as you develop this precious new relationship.
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Withhold unsolicited advice. It's not necessary to say whatever comes to mind. Give suggestions only if your kids ask and don't take it personally if they decide not to act on them. Remember how it felt when your mom or MIL told you what to do?
Respect your children. For years you were a hands-on mom; now watch your sons and daughters raise their own kids. A lot has changed so don’t assume your way is the best. As you step back, see how naturally and competently they care for your grandchildren.
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Set limits that work. Discuss concerns to avoid resentment. You may be ambivalent about babysitting when it cuts into your work time and other relationships. Maintain that fine balance between meeting your own needs and your family responsibilities.
There's way too much attention being paid to Hillary becoming a grandmother. Men with grandkids who have run for president usually project the image of a family man. Nobody is ever concerned about whether they can do the job. And I bet no man would give up his political career to fulfill the role of grandfather.
When it comes to her prospects on the campaign trail, the grandma card might come in handy. It'll bring strength to the policies around children and family that she has long championed. Actually, as grandparents, any of us can stand at the forefront of change and inspiring future generations. And someday look back with pride at our legacy and the small part we played in history.
